Now is usually about the time when people start to give up on some of their New Year’s resolutions. It’s because of this that many people don’t think that resolutions work – that people will eventually return to their old ways, and that it’s useless to make them.
Personally, I believe that a time of year when people examine their lives and consider what they’d like to change about them is always a good thing. Even if some fail at their goals, if even a small portion succeed, then the world is a better place for that.
In that spirit, I’d like to list some of my past resolutions, the one’s that I have kept for years.
1. When a friend does something amazing, I let them know.
I made this resolution in high school, and it’s brought nothing but awesome into my life. When I think that someone looks great in a new outfit, I tell them. When I love a story a friend has written, I let them know. If I like a photograph or painting or the way someone has decorated their house, I say so. I have something of a reputation as a positive person right now because of this, but it’s a rep I’m happy to bear.
2. Eat healthier
I made this resolution about five years ago, and now my friends think I’m a health nut. Although I eat cake on birthdays, and don’t shy away from holiday indulgence, I no longer eat fast food, I have veggies or fruit at every meal, and I feel better for it.
3. Stop talking smack about myself.
I made this resolution in college. I used to put myself down a lot. Then I realized that how I talk about myself will be how others talk about me, and what I put out there into the world about myself can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So while I don’t mind admitting mistakes, I try to be a friend to myself.
4. Avoid Negative People
This resolution was made about two years ago and it’s changed my world. I used to believe that everyone deserved a friend. Now I believe that people who are cruel to me don’t deserve my friendship, time or energy. Now I believe that the best thing I can do is to give my love and attention to people who are kind, creative, interesting, positive people.
5. Accept that I am an artist
A few years ago, I applied to have a show in the Philadelphia Fringe Festival. I told myself that if I got that show, I wasn’t allowed to refer to myself as a wanna-be anymore, that I’d have to accept that fact that my peers see me as an artist and it was time too see myself as one too. I was accepted. I’m an artist. Seeing myself that way has allowed me to believe in myself, to work harder, to let other people know who I really am.